The aging process is inevitable. It is a fact of life. But as we as grow older perhaps into our 40’s we should not forget that our parents are aging also, and perhaps are in need of care and attention.

They have cared and nurtured us for many years. From being a new born babe to the day we were mature enough to have our own independence. They have stuck by us throughout our growing years, so we must accept responsibility for caring for them should they need help.

The task of caring for aged parents can be a complicated one and often requires a great deal of self organization. The caring process can range from being just a daily visit to ensure that all is well with them, to full time care in the case that they suffer from incapacity or illness.

The role of becoming a caretaker to your parents can be difficult initially. Unless the parent is unfit mentally, they will not easily want to relinquish their own personal independence and may not always see things your way.

In turn, out of respect for the fact that they are your parents never try to force you will upon them, even though your decision may be a wise one and for the best for both you as the caregiver, and for the parent.

Should you be the person who elects to be the care giver for your aging parents, there is no need for you to feel isolated and the sole decision maker relating to the welfare of your parents.

Seek out advice from friends who are in similar situations, and make certain that any major decisions you make are approved by your brothers and sisters, they too have a responsibility to their parents.

Often you will be faced with situations which demand decisions, if you act alone, you can frequently cause upset to the parents you are caring for. Assuming that they are still in control of their mental faculties, then share with your parents the reasons for making certain decisions, and solving any problems which they may have.

It is equally important to keep you close relatives informed as to the well being of your parents.

All families are different and have differing values. Often they do not respond to situations in the same way. If you have not shared with the rest of the family the latest events relating to the state of your parents in terms of their attitude and health, then frequently your behavior, no matter how well meaning could be frowned upon. Your efforts will go unrecognized, and no gratitude expressed.

Always remember that you are not dealing with ‘a situation’ but that you are dealing with people, and those people are your parents. The need for caring, and the giving of care will, initially, be a scary, and humbling process for both you and your parents.

Love them, care for them, but respect their dignity, and natural desire to express their own independence. Cherish them as they cherished you and your brothers and sisters!

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